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Helping a Friend with Type 2 Diabetes

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What to do When a Friend Refuses to Test for Type 2 Diabetes. 




Type 2 Diabetes is a common health concern that affects millions of people.  This blog from Damndiabetes discusses why so many people do not want to know if they have type 2 diabetes and what we can personally do to help them overcome the hurdle. 




Health is a precious asset.  Regular health check-ups are crucial for identifying potential issues early on, and that should include getting an easy check-up for type 2 diabetes.  But, despite its prevalence, many individuals resist or refuse to undergo diabetes testing for many reasons.  


For me, this is a personal story of the challenges I faced when a friend declined to test for type 2 diabetes and how I navigated this delicate situation.   


The first thing my wife said when I found out about my friend was, “Don’t say anything.”   But how can a friend stand by and watch as type 2 diabetes attacks without saying anything?   


I could not and came clean with my wife, getting her agreement on how I would handle the situation.   






Type 2 diabetes is a chronic condition characterized by insulin resistance and high blood sugar levels.  Early detection is key to managing the condition effectively and preventing complications such as heart disease, kidney problems, and nerve damage.  However, convincing a friend to undergo testing can be a delicate matter.  But I saw another friend refusing diagnosis and treatment lose an eye, and who knows what other complications he will face. 


All this led me to review the issues with my wife that I would broach with my friend, with the goal of getting him in for a simple test for type 2 diabetes.  




Fear and Denial 


Some individuals fear the potential diagnosis and may choose to deny the possibility of having diabetes. The fear of lifestyle changes, medication, and the impact on daily life can be overwhelming.  But, with help from, we can help to greatly reduce this factor. 





There is still a level of stigma associated with diabetes.  My friend may hold misconceptions about the condition, leading to a reluctance to confront the issue. 


Avoidance of Medical Settings 


My friend avoids medical tests due to anxiety and a general aversion to medical settings. This may be exacerbated by a fear of needles or a perceived invasion of privacy. 





The issues are not the “only thing important” it is very important how one addresses the discussion.  These are some of the things my wife and I deemed important as the objective as to bring my friend into the tent, not drive him away. 


Express Concern with Empathy 


Begin the conversation by expressing genuine concern for your friend's well-being. Use "I" statements to convey your feelings rather than sounding accusatory. 



Share Knowledge 


Provide accurate and relevant information about Type 2 diabetes. Help your friend understand that early detection allows for proactive management, significantly improving the quality of life.  And this is what it is all about: living with a better quality of life. 


Offer Support 


Assure your friend that you'll be there to support them throughout the process. This can include accompanying them to the doctor's appointment or helping with any necessary lifestyle changes - providing ongoing information as we do at 


Emphasize Control and Prevention 


Highlight that diabetes management gives individuals a sense of control over their health.  Prevention and early intervention can often reduce the severity of the condition and improve overall outcomes – leading to a better quality of life. 


Respecting Autonomy 


It's important to acknowledge that everyone can decide about their health. Respect your friend's autonomy, and avoid pushing too hard. Provide information and support, but ultimately, the decision to test for type 2 diabetes rests with them. 


Encouraging Lifestyle Changes 


If your friend remains reluctant to test for diabetes, encourage positive lifestyle changes that promote overall better health.  While lifestyle changes won't replace a medical diagnosis and planned treatment, they can contribute to a healthier lifestyle and indirectly address potential diabetes risk factors. 




Navigating the situation where a friend refuses to test for type 2 dabetes requires a delicate balance of empathy, understanding, and support.  By approaching the conversation with care and providing valuable information, you can encourage your friend to prioritize their health.  


Remember, fostering an open and non-judgmental environment is crucial for facilitating positive change.  And that is what we strive to do every day at


If you need help with a better quality of life living with diabetes, please contact us today.  We do not bite. 


And guess what?  My friend got tested, we are working on a diabetes management plan that is medication-free, and my wife is very proud of me.  What could be better than that? 


Best wishes... 

Vancouver, BC, Canada 

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